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What's a Mature Person?

Mature character may be defined as the inner disposition conducive to right conduct. It is our collection of attitudes and habits that enable and facilitate moral action. Every task and every achievement bear the imprint of our character. One result of attaining good character is that we are able to love others well and become more productive citizens. Good character is the foundation for all human endeavors.



What is Heart?


When we say that a person has a good character, we usually mean that he or she has a good heart. The heart is at the core of human character. The deepest motivation for all moral striving arises from the heart. In particular, the heart is the source of the fundamental impulse for relatedness. It is what motivates us to yearn for the joy of loving and being loved, the satisfaction of valuing and being valued. Love and relatedness describe a human need no less strong than the needs for food and shelter. We are often willing to give up both of these for the sake of love.




True Love is Inherently Ethical and Moral


Love in its true sense is inherently moral. It requires altruistic action: giving, serving, sacrificing ourselves for the sake of our beloved. Love is also inherently ethical, because it can be realized only in a relationship with another human being. The judgment of whether our love is true or false, giving or possessive, altruistic or self-centered is ultimately decided by our counterpart.


In the pursuit of true love, our heart is pleased to promote a moral and ethical self that will pass the test of love. It is because of this nature of heart that we reject shallow or insincere affection, praise an enduring marriage, and are repelled by extra-marital dalliances.




Living for Others


Mature persons are those who, with a sincere heart, love others and balance their desires for others and self. They exhibit self-control and resist the temptation to follow selfish impulses, in order to consistently practice living for others. At these times their words and deeds are one. Too often, we know what is right and say what is right but fail to practice our own words.


One of the highest forms of maturity is filial piety not out of duty toward one's parents but from the heart when a person recognizes the will and concerns of another. Religious people can exemplify their filial devotion by focusing on the circumstances and desires of our Heavenly Parent rather than on personal gain.